Can We Still Be Friends?
Excerpt From The Relationship Handbook: How to Improve every connection and understand in Your Life by Kevin B. Burk
Even when we recognize it’s time to end a romantic relationship, we’re typically reluctant to allow go of our companions totally. It’s all-natural that we desire to hold onto the helpful and loving part of the romantic partnership, and merely allow go of the components that aren’t serving us.
It’s best, in reality, if we do not spend any type of time together once we’ve officially ended the charming partnership. And we require to spend a little time grieving the death of the romantic connection. It takes time for the psychological links to change, and it takes time for us to obtain perspective on the entire partnership.
As soon as we’re all set to spend time with our partner once again, we must acknowledge that any friendship that we develop is a brand-new partnership. It is not an expansion or extension of our charming relationship. We can not anticipate the exact same kind of support or commitment in a relationship as we did in an enchanting connection.
In several ways, friendships are much more requiring than enchanting relationships. We have a much less complicated time letting good friends drift out of our lives than we do with allowing go of enchanting partners.
Also when we recognize it’s time to finish a romantic partnership, we’re commonly reluctant to allow go of our companions totally. If we pick to remain good friends with a previous charming partner, we will certainly have to establish brand-new boundaries and expectations in the connection. It’s best, in reality, if we do not invest any kind of time with each other as soon as we’ve formally ended the charming connection. And we require to spend a little time grieving the fatality of the enchanting relationship. It takes time for the psychological links to readjust, and it takes time for us to gain point of view on the entire relationship.