You’ve been in love with this guy for a long time now, and you’re sure he’s the one. You want to be with him, but you’re afraid of being hurt again. Here are some things you can do to protect yourself from being hurt again.
First, you need to make sure that your guy isn’t playing you. If he doesn’t want to commit, then it’s time to move on. He’s probably already seeing someone else, and you should respect his decision. Don’t try to change his mind. Just let him go.
Second, if he does want to be with you, then you have to be willing to give him the same kind of attention and respect that you would want in return. He needs to feel loved, not manipulated or controlled.
Third, you need to learn how to be honest with yourself about what you really want. Do you really want to be with him? Or do you just want to be with him because you’re afraid of being alone? If you really want to be with this guy, then you need to tell him so. But if you don’t really want to be with him, then you need to be honest with yourself about why you’re hanging around.
Fourth, you need to learn how much you value yourself. If you’re going to be with this guy, you need to make sure you know that you deserve to be treated well. You also need to make sure you know what you want out of a relationship, and that you won’t settle for less than what you deserve.
Finally, you need to find out if he’s ready to commit. If he says no, then you need to leave him alone. It’s best not to push him, but to just let him go. He may never be ready to commit, but you need to respect his decision.